Announcing the Move

About eight million kids move with their families each year. And, unbeknownst to them, 99.7% actually survive the move. And an astonishing number even benefit from the move—whether or not they like it.

Moving upsets everyone. Routines change. Emotions boil. Fears emerge. Confusion reigns. Especially in children. How can you break the news? A family meeting is an excellent way to tell your children about a move. Home is the best place for the meeting, especially around the dinner table. If you don't have frequent (or any) family meetings, take everyone to dinner and broach the subject. But, if you're expecting fireworks, have dinner in a neighboring town where no one knows you. Sound tough? It can be. Here are some tips.

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Break it to them gently. Tell your children the reason for the move. Tailor your explanation to their age. The youngest children only need to know that mommy or daddy has to work at a new office in a new town—or that the family needs to be closer to grandma and grandpa to help them.

Older teens will want and deserve to know more. They can understand that the family needs the increased income of a better job—or whatever the reason for the move. They may not like the move, but they will probably understand the reasons behind it.

Here are some useful tips:

  • Tell them the advantages of moving (new sports, entertainment, a better school, a big MALL!).

  • Be prepared for negative reactions; children seldom like change.

  • Let the children ask any questions they want and answer them as fully as you can with language and examples they can understand.

  • Maintain a positive attitude yourself, but don't sugarcoat the subject.

  • Let them know you understand their wariness and will help them to make the transition in any way you can.

  • Give them some influence and control over some aspects of the move. A toddler can pack for a teddy bear or help you do serious packing.

  • Be a good listener! Be patient.

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